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NEW BOOK: For Couples Who Are Tired Of Fighting About The Past

For COUPLES Who Want To Save Their Marriage: Stop Repairing Version One. Start Building Version Two.

Version one is the old relationship you built by accident. You don't need a new partner. You need a new version. Same two people, a new relationship, even if your partner has checked out and you're the only one trying.

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If you've heard any of these in your house in the last 30 days:

  • "I don't love you anymore"
  • "We've grown apart"
  • "Here we go again"
  • "You always drag up the past"
  • "Nothing's ever going to change"

...then you're living in version one. And version one has run its course.

Version one is the relationship you built by accident. Two people who love each other, protecting themselves from each other, until the protecting became the marriage. Every couple builds one. It doesn't mean you married the wrong person.

Most couples try to save their marriage by fixing version one. They go back over the affair, the money, the years of long hours, the thing that was said in the car. Each of you brings evidence. Nobody wins, and the case never closes.

What if you drew a line under all of it, and built something new with the same person?

That is what this book shows you how to do. You can start tonight, on your own if you have to.

Grant and Christine Wattie
Grant & Christine WattieMarried over four decades. More than 20,000 client hours.
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Everything you get for $10:

  • Same Two. New Love. Digital edition (124 pages)
  • The Toolbox: ten printable tools from the appendix
  • The Inside Out Workshop ($197 value): five short videos to watch first
  • Emergency Crisis Scripts ($97 value)
  • Best Self Action Guide
  • The audiobook edition, sent free the day it's released
  • Plus the first edition, Love Without Limits, and its audiobook to listen to now
One September afternoon, Christine sat heartbroken on the couch while Grant cried in the kitchen. We still loved each other. Neither of us knew how to find our way back. Grant and Christine Wattie

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Before you read a single chapter

Your first week is already planned

Most people who buy a book like this never finish it. So the book starts with a plan instead of a lecture. Seven nights. One small move a night. Each one is taught in full later in the book.

Reading alone, with a partner who won't engage? Nights one, three and six need nobody's permission. And to get you moving tonight, you also get The Inside Out Workshop: five short videos, one small move under each. A $197 value, free with your book today.

Warning

Every week you spend re-fighting the past, the old relationship rebuilds itself

Meanwhile, fear keeps rebuilding version one in your house every day, through the criticism, the silence and the scorekeeping. Neither of you chose it.

Here's the good news. A pattern can be replaced, by two people who still love each other or started by one of them.

Version one, or version two. Same two people.

Here's what changes when you stop repairing the old relationship and start building the new one.

Version one:

  • The same fight about the dishes, on repeat
  • Dragging up the past to win the present
  • Hoping they'll guess what you need, then resenting them when they don't
  • Promises made on Sunday and forgotten by Wednesday
  • Opposite ends of the couch, both on your phones
  • Lying awake at 3am replaying what they said

Version two:

  • A pattern you both see coming, and one word that stops it
  • A line drawn under the past, so the old case stays closed
  • Clear requests that a person can say yes to
  • Agreements you both keep, so trust has something to stand on
  • Time in the diary that belongs to the two of you
  • Affection that comes back, because it's safe to be seen again

If you want version two, order your copy below for just $10.

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The method

How version two works: close the old relationship, build the new one

After twenty years and thousands of couples, we see the same patterns in almost every marriage. Once you can see the pattern, you stop fighting each other. You use practical tools to defeat the pattern instead.

The book teaches nine principles. Here is how they fit together, in four moves.

Move one: close version one

You can't build a future while you're still prosecuting the past. So you feel what needs feeling, forgive what needs forgiving, and then you draw a line in the sand. In the book's words, it's a decision, made once out loud and then kept daily: we have had the conversations, we have felt what needed feeling, and we are not going back to poke the wound again.

Forgiveness here approves of nothing. It's the weight you finally put down. Chapter 8 walks you through it, step by step, even after an affair.

One exception, and it matters. Some situations starve every tool in this book: active addiction, ongoing deception, anything that makes you unsafe. If that's your house, put your safety first and get professional help before relationship work.

Move two: see the pattern, not the villain

The Tiger
The Tiger roars
The Turtle
The Turtle goes quiet
The Giraffe
The Giraffe speaks

In most marriages one partner roars toward the connection to save it. The other goes quiet to protect it. Each one's act of love lands on the other as proof the love is gone. Round and round it goes.

Neither of you is the problem. The pattern is, and you're both inside it. Chapter 3 shows you how to stop it mid-fight, and what love says when fear wants to roar.

Move three: design version two

Most couples have a plan for the mortgage, the renovation and the kids' schooling. And they steer the marriage by vibe. Drift is a direction too.

So you sit down and decide what version two is for. The book starts at the end: what do you want the stories to say about the two of you one day? A shared vision like that doesn't predict your future. It filters your present.

Move four: build it with kept agreements

Your frustration is information: it means you're carrying an expectation your partner never agreed to. Turn it into a request. A yes becomes an agreement. A kept agreement is integrity. Kept word builds trust, trust makes it safe to be seen, and being seen is where intimacy lives.

Love is built through integrity. You don't have to become an eloquent person to have a great marriage. You have to become a reliable one.

Let us ask you something, and it's completely okay to say no

Would it be totally unreasonable to consider that the two of you aren't the problem, and the pattern you're stuck in is?

Is it completely impossible that winning the argument about the past is the one thing standing between you and a future?

Would it be out of line to suggest that your partner's distance might be protection, the same as yours?

What couples say after doing this work

"By the time we arrived, we were living separately and had almost given up hope. The retreat gave us the breakthrough we needed. For the first time in years, we felt truly seen, heard, and connected. By the end of the experience, John moved back home."

John & Lynette, retreat, 2025

"We crafted a great relationship vision together... Those issues we have dragged with us for the past 10 years + are now fading into the past where they should be, and every day we both marvel at how wonderful our marriage is today..."

Greg & Gaynor, couples course

"The Clear Agreements strategy was a breakthrough. I never realized how much trust I could rebuild just by following through on small commitments. This retreat gave us the courage and skills to reset our marriage."

Shane, retreat, 2025

"The Requests and Agreements tool changed everything for us. It gave us a clear and simple way to rebuild trust and hold each other accountable. For the first time in a long time, I felt like we were working as a team again, and that sense of unity has stayed with us since the retreat."

Richard, retreat, 2025

"The STOP technique was a game-changer. Instead of escalating into arguments, we now have a simple way to pause and reconnect."

Andy, retreat, 2025

"I finally understood what it means to live with integrity in marriage. That shift alone has transformed how I show up every day as a husband."

Tony, retreat, 2025

"We came in tired and unsure of where we stood, but left with a renewed sense of love, commitment, and possibility. Having a shared vision for the future has made all the difference."

Joanna, retreat, 2025

"We're the best we've ever been in all our years together. There are still things to work on, and now we work on them together. We've learned to understand ourselves, each other, and how to take on the world as a team."

A client, 2024

"Working with you has changed our lives, our relationship and our family in the most profound positive way, and I couldn't thank you more if I tried."

A client, 2024

"What if my partner won't do any of this?" Then you start. The book marks every step you can take alone. It only takes one to change the dance.

What version one is costing you

In New Zealand, about a third of marriages end in divorce before their silver anniversary. Most struggling couples simply stay, unhappy. Neither has to be your story.

* Holt-Lunstad and colleagues, a review of 148 studies covering more than 300,000 people. Referenced in the book.

Here's everything you're getting today for just $10

The complete version two system.

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Where to start: you don't need to read 124 pages tonight. Turn to "Your first week" on page 7. Seven nights, one small move a night. Three of them need nobody's permission.

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From the desk of Grant & Christine Wattie

Re: your version two

Dear Friend,

It was a warm September afternoon in the Belmont hills, and inside our house the air was ice.

Christine sat numb and heartbroken on the couch in the yellow room. Through the wall she could hear Grant in the kitchen, crying and trying not to be heard. The night before, she had chucked some stuff in a bag.

We still loved each other. Neither of us knew how to find our way back.

We went looking for help and found almost none. The best advice on offer was "have a beer and drown your sorrows." One person told us, "maybe you should just leave."

So we went all-in on our marriage. We studied counselling, trained under world-class mentors, and practised on the only marriage we had. Slowly we learned to talk without having a go at each other. To say what we needed without blame. To forgive each other's stuff-ups and celebrate each other's wins.

Then we looked up and saw couples everywhere drowning the way we had been. Helping them became our life's work. More than twenty years and twenty thousand client hours later, this book is everything we've learned, boiled down to nine principles.

Some of you will know our first book, Love Without Limits. Same Two. New Love. is that book rebuilt from the ground up. New stories. The Tiger-Turtle pattern at its centre. And the idea we now think matters most: love is built through integrity.

Our names are Grant and Christine Wattie. We've been married for over four decades.

Grant and Christine Wattie

We raised three children and we're now surrounded by grandchildren. The yellow room taught us that someday is not promised. That's why we'd love you to start tonight.

With aroha,
Grant & Christine

There's no catch

Yes, seriously. You're probably wondering why we'd put a book like this out for ten dollars.

Some people offer a great deal and then charge your card every month. We charge you once. There's no hidden continuity program.

Here's the truth about the price. We kept asking ourselves how many couples are sitting in pain right now who won't pay for help. So we made a decision. Ten dollars. Digital delivery. No barriers. And yes, if this book changes your marriage, we figure you'll want to know how we can help you personally. That feels like a fair exchange to us.

This price won't stay here forever.

You're also getting the audiobook, 100% free

The audiobook edition is in production. The day it's released, it lands in your inbox at no charge, so you can listen in the car, at the gym, or anywhere you need privacy and encouragement.

You won't wait to start listening. The first edition, Love Without Limits, and its audiobook are in your library from day one.

Most people charge extra for the audiobook. We want you to have it as a gift for taking action on your marriage.

You're backed by our 365-day money-back guarantee

A whole year to try this out. We believe this is the world's best money-back guarantee.

Grab your copy of Same Two. New Love. today. Read it. Enjoy the bonuses. Most of all, do the practice at the end of each chapter. If you're not blown away by what changes, for ANY reason, email us any time in the next YEAR. We'll refund your $10 and you keep the book and every bonus, free of charge.

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P.S. If you're one of those people (like us) who skips straight to the bottom of the page, here's the deal

Most couples try to save their marriage by fixing the old relationship. This book shows you how to close it and build a new one with the same person. You let go of the past and see the pattern instead of the villain. Then you decide what version two is for and build it with agreements you both keep.

You can get the entire method today for $10. It's all practical, with no fluff.

You don't need to read all 124 pages tonight. Turn to "Your first week" on page 7. Night one takes two minutes, and it needs nobody's permission.

Love is built through integrity. Small things, asked for plainly, and then done. Version two starts with the first one.

With aroha,
Grant & Christine

Still not sure?

Frequently asked questions.

What exactly am I getting?

The complete Same Two. New Love. book (124-page digital edition), the Toolbox, the audiobook edition, the Inside Out Workshop, the Emergency Crisis Scripts and the Best Self Action Guide. Everything arrives by email in about two minutes, and the audiobook follows the day it's released. You also get the first edition, Love Without Limits, with its audiobook.

Who is this for?

Anyone who wants to save their marriage, whose partner has checked out or says it's too late, or who has a good marriage and wants a great one. It works even if you're the only one trying.

Is this the same book as Love Without Limits?

Same Two. New Love. is the new edition of Love Without Limits, rebuilt from the ground up. New stories, a new structure, the Tiger-Turtle pattern at the centre, and a week-one plan you can start tonight. If you loved the first book, this is the one we'd hand you now.

What if my partner won't read it?

Start anyway. One person can change the dance. Every chapter marks what you can do alone, and the first week has three nights that need nobody's permission.

We already tried counselling. How is this different?

We're counsellors ourselves, and we hear this in almost every first session. When counselling stalls, it's usually because the person got treated instead of the pattern. This book works on the pattern, together, with practical tools you can use at the kitchen bench on a Tuesday. One test for all of it: did anything change in your house this week?

What if there's been an affair?

Chapter 8 walks through forgiveness after betrayal, including how couples draw a line in the sand and point the work forward. If you're dealing with abuse, active addiction or anything that makes you unsafe, please put your safety first and get professional help before relationship work.

Do you offer more in-depth help?

Yes. We work with couples directly. This book is complete and stands on its own.

Is there a guarantee?

Yes. You have a full year. If you're not satisfied for any reason, we'll refund your money and you keep everything.

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